In a world that often emphasises external validation and societal norms, SELF is often pushed to the end of the priority list.

Self-relationship is an unknown term to many. When you hear this term, your mind might jump to assuming it's all about self-love, but it's not.

In this blog post, we delve into the depths of what it truly means to cultivate a strong, nurturing relationship with yourself, exploring the various dimensions that contribute to this healing and transformative relationship.

Self-Relationship is the answer to EVERYTHING!

Are you breathing correctly? 

Did you know that some of us are reverse breathers?

I want to help you incorporate more intentional focused breathing in your days so you can slowly carve out moments of peace in your day. Moments when you are simple you, checking in with yourself, caring for yourself.

Take a moment and breathe with me.

Self-love is the foundation of a happy and fulfilling life. It is the ability to accept yourself as you are, with your strengths and perceived imperfections. It facilitates the ability to treat yourself with kindness and compassion.

Self-love is not selfish; it is a healthy realisation that you are your responsibility, your main carer, and your companion for life.

But how do you generate self-love?

I use mantras to override my dysfunctional thinking.

I grew up in a dysfunctional home.

The reality is when you grow up in a dysfunctional environment your brain wires dysfunctionally because you learn from the adults around you and if they're dysfunctional your little brain doesn't know any different. It learns for the ones you love, it trust them completely to show them how to live and love.

And so my job as an adult is to rewire the different parts of my brain so that instead of falling into dysfunctional patterns of thinking, behaving and over exaggerated feelings, I am consciously and actively teaching it healthy ways of being and functioning.

I use mantras as a tool to help rewire my brain.

If you experience five or more of these symptoms, lasting for two weeks or more, you should speak with your GP.

Feeling sad, anxious, hopeless or worthless, lonely, isolated

Low energy, feeling tired

Under or oversleeping, waking frequently during the night or having difficulty getting to sleep

Poor concentration and thinking slowed down

Loss of interest in hobbies, family or social life

Low self-esteem, and feelings of guilt

Aches and pains with no physical basis, e.g. chest, head or tummy pain associated with anxiety or stress

Loss of interest in living, thinking about death, suicidal thoughts

Sometimes symptoms of depression or anxiety may share similar symptoms to other conditions which are why speaking with your GP can be a really good first step.

Hi, I’m Solas, born and raised in Co. Wicklow, Ireland. I lived in Edinburgh, Scotland for many of my adult years, but illness forced me to move back home to my parents in 2018. 

I live with multiple chronic illnesses. 

Depression, anxiety and PTSD for decades now. 

Chronic Fatigue fi got in 2017 after catching a flu virus.  

I got diagnosed with Diabetes around my 18th Birthday. It's not type 1 or 2 but a genetic type called Mody3. 

I wanted to take this time to introduce myself to you and share a little about my story so far. I am currently writing this from my new home in italy.

Once upon a time,

there was a princess whose anxiety was threatening to take her over so she tiptoed from her dark cocoon on the sofa to her laptop and wrote down all that she was afraid of. It was a long list and once written she read it over and wrote beside each why it was irrational and what, if any, action or solution she could take.

The next day the sun was shining so she decided to be brave and go out into the world to try and feel better. She pictured her day being spent lazing at the beach letting the sun kiss her soul better.

But before she could get to the beach her car got stuck in the sand.